As I've expressed before, things, by nature, are going to be different the second time around the ole pregnancy block. But the baby is just as special as the first one. You still love the baby in your belly just as much, you pick out a name with just as much care, wash the clothing and set up the crib and stand back to smile, just as much as before. So this time around, since we didn't have a baby shower, I told Mike I still wanted to feel that special celebration with friends/family. It isn't about the gifts. It's about feeling loved, cared for, that others are excited for you, and that you have support around you. And I definitely feel that way, celebration or not--I have lovely friends and family who give me support and love in so many ways. But hey, a girl wants a little party every now and then.
So Mike suggested he put together a night for me to go out with my girl friends and just celebrate. No stress of having to cook, clean, get food or drink ready in the house. Just have some drinks, sample lots of food and sweets, and enjoy the company of my circle of women.
And that's just what we did.
For only giving friends a few weeks notice, we manage to get 10 of us together on the same night. My friend picks me up at home (always fun to have a ride in a car with your friend), then we pick up another friend at the train station, and off we go to a fun bar/restaurant in White Plains. As the other guests stroll in, I introduce each member of the party by name and a few other facts (so many of my friends' introductions end with, "And she's also an artist." :). By the time the last guest arrives, all the other guests are able to introduce each other, and we have amassed quite a sense of comradery. I have to say, I feel very lucky to have such awesome women in my lives. Women who have newborn babies themselves come out, a girl who hasn't had a night to herself since her 3 year old daughter was born comes out, girls from over an hour away come out (one even who is 36 weeks pregnant herself). One friend makes up a fun balderdash-inspired "Bad Baby Names" game (and you know you have great people when they all are actually into it), and one friend champions on our behalf when we spot a bug on the wall (free dessert platter ensues). Some girls exchange contact information and others comment on how nice it would be to all get together again. You know you have a great time when you realize your parking meter money is running out, and you never thought you'd use it all up.
I leave the night feeling good. Not only does it feel nice to have these friends in my life, but it feels pretty darn good just to get out of the house by myself to see a bunch of friends in an intimate party. Where I can joke around freely, talk seriously, laugh, share stories. It's just good to be reminded of who you are as a person, outside of a mother. This is what makes us good mothers to begin with.
So thanks Mike, for getting this ball rolling, and thanks to my ladies for being so awesome!
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